EMDR in Practice

EMDR does not require you to talk through every detail of what happened. Instead, we focus on what your mind and body are holding and allow processing to unfold in a structured, supported way.

I use bilateral stimulation such as eye movements, gentle tapping, or small pulsators—handheld devices that buzz softly, similar to a phone vibration.These alternating sensations help engage both sides of the brain and support the brain’s natural processing system.

Sessions can feel different for different people. At times the work may feel subtle and reflective; at other times it can feel emotionally intense. We move carefully, check in often, and adjust the pace so that you remain within a window that feels manageable and safe.

EMDR for Trauma and Complex Trauma

I use EMDR to work with both single-incident trauma (such as accidents, assaults, or specific frightening events) and complex trauma, including developmental trauma and attachment wounds—experiences that occur over time, often in early relationships, and shape how safety, trust, and connection are felt in the body.

With complex trauma, I intentionally slow the process down. Rather than diving directly into highly charged memories, we spend time building stability, resourcing, and internal safety. This helps reduce the risk of retraumatization and allows the work to feel more contained and sustainable.

For some clients, this means working with pieces of memory, sensations, or themes rather than full narratives. For others, it involves preparing the nervous system so it can tolerate processing in a supported way. There is no rush—pacing is an essential part of healing.

The Flash Technique

In addition to standard EMDR protocols, I also use the Flash Technique when appropriate. This approach can be especially helpful for memories that feel particularly intense, intrusive, or overwhelming.

The Flash Technique allows processing to occur without focusing directly on the distressing memory. This can reduce emotional activation while still helping the brain lower the intensity of the experience. Many clients find this method gentler on the nervous system while still effective.

An Experiential and Attachment-Focused Approach

Across my EMDR work, I integrate attachment-based and experiential elements. I often incorporate visualization, creativity, and parts-informed perspectives to support internal awareness and communication.

This means we are not only working with memories, but also with how your system learned to protect you, how relationships shaped your responses, and what you need now to feel safer and more supported. The therapeutic relationship itself is an important part of this process, and we move at a pace that honors your lived experience.

Is EMDR Right for You?

EMDR can be helpful if past experiences continue to affect you in the present—through strong emotional reactions, body sensations, negative beliefs about yourself, or patterns that feel difficult to change through insight alone.

Whether EMDR is the right approach is something we decide together. My role is to help you understand your options, answer questions, and tailor the work in a way that feels respectful and collaborative.

If you’re considering therapy and want to learn more, I invite you to contact me to schedule a free 20-minute consultation. We can talk about what you’re experiencing and explore whether EMDR or another approach feels like a good fit.

I’m based in San Marcos, California and offer in-person and virtual therapy throughout the state.